so should i repost my "the language/culture of Shipping has ruined how people talk about relationships in fiction" take orrrrrrr
(yes that originated from talking about splatoon but it was never specifically about splatoon)
*makes sure my signature dragons are up to date before posting a hot take* alright
i wanna preface this by saying my take is not "Shipping Bad". it's not always
my thing (i have a unique brain disease where i laserfocus too much on my ocs to do much with canon characters anywhere anyway) but i think it's fun. my take is also not "there's a problem with how folks in fandom spaces talk about relationships in fiction
and it's all those dirty shippers' faults". more on that later
my central point is as stated - maybe
ruined was a dramatic verb to use when i first posted here at 2 am but the language and culture surrounding shipping, i think, has made it difficult to talk about romantic relationships in fiction in a matter-of-fact way, or to analyze the role of a romantic relationship in a story, without it being assumed what you really want to talk about is Shipping™. if you say "i think the text strongly supports these characters having feelings for each other/being in a relationship" it is assumed what you want to talk about is not
actually what that means for the story or those characters' development, but rather where to find good fanfics about those characters. and people who don't pick up on subtext are emboldened to skip "eh, i don't see it personally" and go straight to "wow the shippers want everyone to see the story the way they do" because speculating about characters' love lives is seen as this unimportant, juvenile thing rather than a part of the story and its characters someone could speculate about the same as any other part of the plot, characters' backstories, worldbuilding, etc.
the vibe is still very much there for m/f couples/potential couples but i see this kind of rhetoric used towards queer interpretations of stories and their characters a lot. to an extent i think some people might be trying to be realistic, shield themselves against disappointment, knowing that especially in older, mainstream media, it's a lot less likely for it to be explicitly shown that characters are gay. (...but even then, subtext is a thing and has always been a thing.) but in a lot of cases i think that, despite media from the past decade or so - even kids' media, sometimes at the risk of cancellation and sabotage, see: steven universe & the owl house - becoming more willing to portray queer characters and relationships, fans picking up on subtext (and sometimes just
text) is seen as wishful thinking. and thank god there's this convenient "Shipper" label the "idm gay people but keep it out of my face" crowd can apply to queer fans seeing themselves represented in their favorite shows/games/etc to dismiss what we say as childish and unserious!
and it's not lost on me that the stereotypical 'shipper' is a female fan. we all know the "teenage girl writing bad fanfiction" archetype. so we've got this fandom activity largely associated with women and particularly teen girls, and it's
also seen as an unimportant way to engage with a work with that sentiment extended to
all discussion of fictional relationships... curious! this is why i wanted to make it clear that my grievance
isn't with folks who
do enjoy shipping for what it is. it's the
response to the activity, bled over into conversations meaning to discuss romance in fiction
without a shipping lens because nuance is hard to come across online, that i take issue with. and at the core of that response, i think, is misogyny in fandom
ideally, folks big into shipping would be allowed to draw their fanart and write their fanfiction without getting hounded by people who seek out amateur writing by young writers to pick apart,
and those of us who want to discuss romance as a plot element and character aspect - or express joy over the fact that queerness in fiction is no longer always relegated to the subtlest of subtext - could do that without it getting shoved in the 'shipping' box.
(the shipping box? like from UPS?)